Of course, we all want the first one or at least the second one. But what can we do if we are pursued by the third one? A person is controlled by his or her mind.
By a simple algorithm while interpreting any fact. A person makes conclusion about anything based on the program (patterns) he or she has and the data received through the five organs of senses (usually seeing and hearing). How you feel after that is a reaction.
Whatever happens the procedure is the same:
Launching of the relevant mechanism
It means we need a new signal in order to launch the mechanism in the right direction. We need to work on our perception. I do it with people. You may consider it psychological help, a long lasting vaccine that will work non stop. For all the three conditions there is only one "door", one entrance and exit. You need to do little: to find out what should inter this "door" and how.